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okay it's officially december december.
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We are, we are here, we made it.
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We made it through november we barely did.
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We got shot out of a cannon.
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You, I got shot out of a cannon, for sure.
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This is why I don't understand not to debate this every five seconds.
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I will never understand.
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Like super late decorating for Christmas because November felt so intense.
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Like when that man comes across on the parade morning and then people immediately start eating and then the next day they shop and do the decorating Right Gosh, that looks so hard yeah, no, no thanks.
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Because every weekend has something going on too right?
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Do you have this?
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Yes, Somebody asked me, I guess it was yesterday.
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They were like oh, maybe for a weekend in December we could do that.
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I'm like, there are no weekends in.
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December.
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I have a new friend who's asking me about that.
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She's like let me know what weekends you're free.
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And I'm like, yeah, no, you want like time blocks Right.
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Exactly, I could take you on December 3rd, from 11 to 12.
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11 and 2.
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I could potentially yeah, no.
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No, december is bananas.
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So, yeah, we do stuff every weekend because we have to.
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Like I wanted to go up to the Biltmore house and take Clark and Nate to go at Christmas.
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Have you ever been?
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No, it is amazing.
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And it was scary.
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It didn't get when it had to be closed down for all the storming and everything.
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When there was some damage there I was pretty freaked out that I hadn't made time to go before.
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It's so beautiful at Christmas.
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It's so gorgeous they do these.
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Yeah, I want to go.
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Instagram.
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And then they were like we just got our first dusting of snow and they showed it.
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It's so pretty and then.
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But then tickets are sold out and then there's no time.
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There's no time for us to go.
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And, by the way, why are the kids in school so late this year?
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Oh, I am not happy about it.
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It's basically up until like they only get like the 23rd, 24th and 25th off, or something.
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Yeah, I mean they have to go until like four days before Christmas.
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It's insane, unreal.
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I know it just doesn't give a whole lot of time to do the thing.
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So yeah, back to your comment, the decorating.
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From a divorce perspective.
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Also, it jacks up the divorce schedule.
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Oh yeah, it's split by like Christmas day and it's like somebody gets the first half of break to Christmas day and then somebody gets like the second half, and I'm like you guys, just normally that's not a big deal, but you just made it look all crazy.
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Yeah so yeah, I don't like.
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I don't like Christmas being as late as it is this year.
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I don't love that.
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Well, and I'm like we haven't.
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We also have this whole week of.
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We had that whole week of Thanksgiving because there were no weather days, but I'm like there's never going to be a weather day because you guys keep making it.
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E-learning.
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But I would prefer that.
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Actually, the e-learning Well, I mean, we don't have to do that.
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Our school usually is just like hey.
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But when we did have to do the e-learning, I mean I would rather do that than go to school the week of Thanksgiving, because I feel like that's also another week that just shut it down.
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I've never had a full week off in my pre like as a kid, so I like Same.
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I thought it was fun to be there on like Monday and Tuesday.
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It was kind of wacky because Thanksgiving to me isn't like the biggest holiday yeah.
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It was like those were all the party days and then I would do like fun coloring sheets, yeah, and like movies and like nonsense, and then like for, from the working perspective, I'm like, well, okay, we'll do the coloring sheets here.
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Right.
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And we're also.
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I feel like we're in that time of movies here.
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This is the season of overstimulation and I know you and I chatted last week about this what there were the two days we did a fundraiser at our school and we sold pies.
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I think I brought this up and so I didn't know if we were going to talk about the whiplash from the pies.
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Dude.
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If I never hear that word ever again, it will be too soon.
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Are we not doing the pies?
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next year.
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Hell to the no.
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Even Clark is like I don't ever want to hear the word pie ever again, Like it's been that bad.
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But so we get there and the guy has like 30 done and we had sold 281.
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I will never.
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I was shitting my pants, Rebecca.
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First of all, I'm surprised we're talking about this, so I wasn't going to bring it up, because I didn't know if we were going to talk about this.
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Like, here's the thing.
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The part that's really offensive is like you and I are like the biggest small business people.
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Like you and I are like the biggest small business people and we also know that on a few occasions, even if it's a school something, when we've gotten ours, when we've maybe bit off a little bit more than we could chew, we, we stayed until the bitter end.
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We didn't go home and like do the things and we like we're like the people that you'll see at Costco buying five pound bags of flour.
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It's like get it done, like we're gonna make it happen we're gonna make it happen, but we'll like what do you do?
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so I mean you know that you had to go and make it happen, even though you had already made it happen for the entire other side.
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You had to make pies.
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No, I had to make the boxes, put the pies in the boxes, decipher which pies were what I mean.
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And so we were supposed to deliver all of these pies on Thursdays to all the family.
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So you think about how many families there were, for 281 pies To the families.
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Yes, yes, rebecca, yes, so it was just so.
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So anyway, so that was Thursday.
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He still did not finish the pies.
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I had to go back on Friday morning.
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But I get home Thursday and I had been asked leaving with deliveries.
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Hmm, what'd you say, leaving in the middle with deliveries?
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No, I will.
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So I called in other parents cause I was like I'm going to need some help and by the grace of God they were available to come help.
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So they would come, I would send them back with pies, I would load up more, they would go back with pies.
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So it was just like a constant rotation all day of doing this.
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I was just leading charge of direction of where to go, so I was sorting Correct yes, and so I get home Thursday night and you know how, after you have been asked 8,000 questions during the day, and this can be anything.
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It can be like PTA, it can be work.
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My work last week was crazy.
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And that's what I'm saying.
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I knew this is a hot topic for you too after Friday, and so it's like don't talk to me.
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I don't want anybody to talk to me and God bless my husband and I know you listen.
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Thank you so much for your support.
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You're amazing, nate.
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I walked in the door and he started talking to me and I was like no.
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Well, he was probably panicking, because he knows that you've just been dragged.
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I'm like, read the room, read the room.
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I don't want you to talk to me, I don't want you to ask me any questions, because I mean, seriously, I had not been in the door for five minutes.
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Well, how did the day go?
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Not well, mate.
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Not well Bad.
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It went bad.
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And so I'm just like are you like this, like you just cannot handle one more thing?
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I just can't, like, I can't even have a conversation.
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Oh, I picked up the phone for a customer on Friday.
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I was like what, granted, I do know this customer, but I'm like it's 716.
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What?
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Because I know what you're doing.
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You are calling in a flavor Like you are.
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And here's my favorite thing in sales, this happens the week before holidays.
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I don't know if it's possible, but like, could we get that by like Wednesday next week?
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And I'm like so I want my one of my best things, that I'm like I learned a management technique that I learned that I love.
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I learned it from my friend, osi Nelly.
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I like to rephrase I did this in my marriage too, and I continue to do it in my divorce.
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I like to rephrase I like to say what you're saying to me the real way.
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So I'm like so your deadline is the day before Thanksgiving.
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And they're like yes, and I know I just made them uncomfortable because they were trying to say Wednesday, it's not just any Wednesday, right?
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So let's like, be just more honest.
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We'll call it what it is.
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Let's be a little more honest, that's eight in you.
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So I like to rephrase, and I'm not saying anything rude, I'm just like let me re-prepare this statement for you.
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Like, let me re-prepare this statement for you.
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And then I had a client who took all week to make a decision about something, which is fine, but she also has a decently tight deadline.
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So my team is doing like an awful lot of glassware and etching on stainless steel right now and I'm like so it was a photo friend also.
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She went to Phil first because she knows him.
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And I'm like so he it was a photo friend also.
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She went to Phil first cause she knows him.
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And I was like well, you said yes.
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But why is everybody else's urgency become your urgency?
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I know, oh well, so I will say this in my 95, I am the sales director for a print shop in my traditional nine to five that prints always urgent Right.
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So I try to give them some grace because, like I understand that you're thinking about it the minute and sometimes they call me and they don't even have print ready artwork.
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You know what I mean.
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They're just like oh so how late could we get that to you?
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And I'm like well, how late would you like me to get your project?
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oh, you're back to the red.
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Sorry, you just clapped.
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Oh, it looks so good, good.
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I had to get a new nail person, though I told you I like it's working out, but you know I broke them on Friday.
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The Saturday, the girls got tangled up at the bottom of the stairs.
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I took a major chunk out of my thumb and I, when I felt I like, fell forward on the stair a the stairs.
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I took a major chunk out of my thumb and I, when I felt I like, fell forward on the stair a little bit and I was like if I just, if I just did these nails on Thursday night when I didn't want to cause I have to sit still for it and it's like really annoying.
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I made myself go at like six o'clock.
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I was like I'm just going to make myself go because this thanksgiving week is gonna be so psychotic I'm never gonna be able to get in there.
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I was like if I just broke one of those nails I am going to lose my mind I'm the same way like I, everybody's like, oh don't you love, like your pamper time, like no, when I'm laying down waiting to get my lashes done, I'm like I could be doing out, freaking out.
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Imagine laying for and not sleeping for like an hour and 15 minutes and I'm like I could be doing so many more things right now.
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I it's.
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It literally flips me out so bad.
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But I'm like if I don't do the nails, actual nail care is too hard, like I don't have the time for that either.
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No, I don't do the nails.
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Actual nail care is too hard, I don't have the time for that either.
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No, I don't have time for any of it.
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Plus, I feel like if I look like certain things are fairly done, the fact that I always look like I slept outside works in my favor.
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I'm like no, but my nails are done.
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That's how I feel about my lashes.
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I've slept outside.
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I look like I'm a hobo, but her lashes look good.
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Well, I was like, when you're like I'm not going to look pretty, I literally just brushed through my hair from yesterday.
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I was like well, I'm still wet Well.
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I just got out of the shower, literally before we hopped on here.
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I didn't shower yet.
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All right, so it's December, so have you started christmas shopping or no?
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I will, yes, yes, I have okay, um, some of it's just in a cart, some of it is here okay, I am really struggling, like even talking about you and I'm talking about doing a gift guide for this.
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I know, and I am struggling to come up with gifts this year and I'm usually like it's my superpower, but this year I'm at a loss for some reason.
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I have some good ones, like on the back deck, like mentally, but the girls are in such different ages.
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For them it's like tricky because Pilot wants like really intense stuff.
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You know like real uggs.
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And then it's like, okay, she wants one pair of like lululemon shorts.
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Now she wears little shorts every eight seconds.
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She probably only needs one pair.
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But she's with like the swim team girls and the big gymnastics girls and so it's like she just really I mean I can't fault her for it.
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She just really wants that logo when she's like hanging with the big girls.
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But I'm like they don't really do like I'm gonna have to get like adult miniature, yeah I feel like clark is she's also asking for uggs is it the Tazzies with the red around the side?
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No, she wants like the low ones.
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Yeah Well, the sizing is like a nightmare on those, at least the Tazzies.
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They're just not cheap, I mean.
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I just and I've spent plenty of that on like toys and stuff, but I'm just like, and I love that they will wear them Right.
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Part of me like doesn't mind that it's like a little bit less toys, but then I'm like, well, so like there is a pair here and I had to ask her sister to swear to secrecy so I could try them on her, so I could see if they could fit, cause I don't know what size she is fit, because I don't know what size she is.
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Sure enough they're going to be tight.
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So I'm like now I have to hold on to them in case they can get my hands on another pair or something for another tree, because they're really hard to get right now.
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And every time I look at her sister I'm like, I feel like Clark's feet are growing at like a rapid speed.
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That's happening for one of my friends.
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My girls are Pilot's, my like tater tot.
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Sumi's my.
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My girls are pilots, my like tater tot.
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Some use my fast grower.
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I mean like she is now in a seven, a women's seven.
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That's like how summer's kids are.
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Payton could wear my shoes.
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Yeah, and I and ever since she was a baby I have had her in like the wrong size shoes and I'm not exaggerating, Like it's the one like major parenting fail that I always have Like I will have her walking around guaranteed in a shoe that's a size too small, because, like I just don't, like I don't when I feel the toe, like I'm going to feel your toe, Like I can't ever tell if it's.
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I know that's like a mom trick, but I can't figure it out.
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I can't she just tell you now Well, one would think, but she has never like said anything, she's so used to it her entire life.
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She's like this is how shoes feel.
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Why don't you take her and get her like fit?
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Well, we did that machine at rec room.
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You know that you like this.
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Yeah, you like stand on the machine and it like measures the foot.
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Yeah, so I have done that before.
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But I don't think we bought a pair of shoes that day because she didn't find anything she liked.
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But yeah, she's just notorious.
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I mean, I think her tennis shoe in there is a size six.
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Oh shit, I just can't keep up with the feet.
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Well, the Uggs to me at least, the ones that I have to get are feeling like they run a little bit small.
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Okay, yeah, I don't know.
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Yeah, my kids wear Crocs a lot also, so that's why I like half don't even know what really they are actually wearing.
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Yeah, we went through the Croc phase.
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The Croc and the natives, I mean, like they were the knockoff.
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They were natives.
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They never had skinny enough feet when it was time for the natives.
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Well, she was like four.
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I mean, it was like when she was little, little and they were the target and like knockoff ones but it's never like they need a lot of like slide room.
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Yeah, but the crocs stay because they all wear them for gymnastics and they all wear them for swim team.
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I'm like you guys have got to wear like always gonna get real sneakers for school like these feel a little weird.
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I'm like they're real shoes.
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I don't know what to tell you here.
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Everything can't just be like Ronald McDonald slippers.
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Oh, I had McDonald's the other day.
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How good was it.
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I haven't had it in a minute.
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Well, it was funny when we were there.
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Nate was like I haven't heard you talk about Rebecca eating McDonald's lately on the podcast and I'm like you know we need to unpack that because I don't know if she has.
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Well, I don't know.
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Something's going on with me.
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I think I started to tell you this, but like I have not used, I mean, truth be told, I actually just did Uber Eats like a Starbucks here.
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No judgment, I live for Uber Eats.
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Okay, well, I've never done just a coffee, but it just feels right, right now.
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So I just did that.
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It's December, I know, but I haven't used my coffee pot since the beginning of October, what?
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I've just been sitting there.